He may pursue out of obsession or possessiveness, and he may come on too strong, too quickly, or be in shadow pursuit, stalking her online and gathering intel to figure out who he should be before he contacts her. When it comes to Mars in a man’s chart in these situations, you could drop in Pluto and get a similar effect EXCEPT that there can be intense, obsessive, and jealous undertones to the pursuit. What works for them is to find someone with similar Martian energy (see below) who will be supportive of their Martian drive wherever it’s channeled. Or they feel that in order to have love, they have to give up their ambition. Some may funnel all this energy into one thing, like a career, instead of in romance, particularly if they have hard aspects between their natal Mars and Moon and/or Venus, finding romance to be their downfall or detriment. However, some of these guys don’t pursue because they’ve grown to distrust their own raw, Martian energy. It could be that it’s the conquest that matters most. It’s also possible that with a very strong Mars, they struggle to slow down and empathize with the target of their desires but also that they recover pretty quickly, meaning that if one woman says no, the next one might say yes, and that’s what makes all the difference to them. Or, they may be gay if they have the Sun, Venus, and Mars all in the same sign (particularly in Aries, Scorpio, or the other fire signs where Mars is at home), so it’s not even a thing for you to worry about if you’re female. They may be way too aggressive and too pigheaded, naturally. He’s probably the type who develops feelings for someone he’s been friends with for a while or only when someone gives him a big flashing green light that he can’t ignore. This doesn’t mean he’ll never find love, or that he will never become interested in a woman or anyone else sexually it just means that he’s not inclined to enter the competition and the hunt of courtship, that he may be ill at ease with that sort of thing. A completely debilitated Mars doesn’t have the drive and the confidence to pursue and risk loss and rejection. Then he probably won’t chase her or anything else. While the Sun is our personality, the Moon our primal needs, Mercury our thoughts and the way we communicate, and Venus the way we love and experience pleasure, Mars is the way we deal with the material world, with other people, etc., to make sure all those other planets get what they need in a world in which we all must compete for what we want. It’s how we expressively put our energy out in the world to get what we want. Mars is our motivation and our assertiveness. If none of her angles, points, or planets strongly aspect his Mars, there is no chase. His Mars MUST be activated in synastry in order to get him to chase anyone or anything. But first, a PSA:Īfter all, you’re asking about the chase, a part that isn’t actually necessary to begin a relationship but can certainly be a part of it. Just as you would think it’s creepy and a boundary violation for a guy to keep insisting after a woman has said no, you respect his boundaries, too.Īnd, last but not least: most of the time, you’re not in love, no matter how badly you want them. If he even so much as gets a hint that you simply just want the ego boost of being chased, that shit’s gonna end very quickly. If he’s interested, he’s going to make that clear. If he doesn’t tell people you’re his girlfriend, his partner, his bae, whatever term signifies your exclusivity, you’re not his girlfriend, his partner, his bae, etc., no matter what he says when you’re alone, and if you try to light a fire under his ass by leaving, that’s not going to create a place in his heart for you where none existed before…and honestly: do you really want to bore a hole in his heart with a guilt drill anyway? If he doesn’t want you, he’s not going to chase you. However, I am doubtful that there’s a man trying to figure out what synastry aspects is going to motivate him to chase a woman.īut I’m going to tell you something before I even start writing: I don’t know the gender of the individuals involved, or the gender roles they play, but I’m under the assumption that this search was made by a cis woman who identifies as a woman and is wondering about getting a person who identifies as a man to chase her. I figure I could just simply answer the question and see if this brings anyone back. This comes from an interesting google search term that brought someone to this blog. So I get some very interesting google search terms that bring people to this blog, including ones I can’t ever recall actually discussing, so why not just write a blog post to answer a specific question?
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